Can you be a genuinely good person without any religion at all?

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  Nina3w ago

  At 73 I have watched four generations of my family. The most ethical among them held wildly different beliefs. The least ethical also held wildly different beliefs. I no longer think belief is the variable. I think it's whether someone learned early on that other people's suffering is real.

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    Kofi3w ago

    that last line is something else. 'whether someone learned early on that other people's suffering is real.' I'm going to be thinking about that for a while.

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  Nina5d ago

  my grandma never missed church a single sunday in 60 years. also never forgave my uncle for marrying outside the faith, never spoke to his kids, died with that grudge intact. my dad is a full atheist who coached little league for 20 years, drove elderly neighbors to chemo, never asked for anything back. i'm just one data point but it's a pretty vivid one.

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  Marco3w ago

  I spent twelve years doing international humanitarian work, mostly in conflict zones. The most selflessly courageous people I met were believers and non-believers in roughly equal proportion. The ones who burned out or caused harm? Also split pretty evenly. What actually correlated with genuine goodness was self-awareness and the ability to sit with uncertainty. That's not a religious trait or a secular one.

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    Nina3w ago

    this is the only comment in this thread that feels like it comes from someone who actually knows something

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    Drew3w ago

    Respectfully, twelve years of field observation is still anecdote. I don't say that dismissively — it's genuinely valuable testimony. But it's not data. Large cross-national studies on prosocial behavior and religiosity show complicated, context-dependent results that don't map cleanly onto either side's narrative.

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  Drew3d ago

  I spent fifteen years as a hospice chaplain working with people of every background imaginable. The dying people who seemed most at peace were not sorted neatly into religious or non-religious. What they shared was: they had loved people well, and they knew it. The ones who suffered most were carrying unrepaired relationships. Faith status was genuinely irrelevant to that pattern.

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    Morgan3d ago

    This is lovely but it's also anecdote dressed up as data. Confirmation bias is real even for hospice chaplains. I'm not saying you're wrong, I'm saying 'seemed most at peace' as observed by one person over 15 years is not a rigorous way to settle a philosophical dispute.

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      Priya2d ago

      imagine requiring peer-reviewed studies before you're allowed to share what you watched people go through while they were dying. this site sometimes

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  Ravi2w ago

  My grandmother was the most genuinely good person I've ever known. She prayed every single morning of her 94 years. She also never once made me feel judged for not believing. I think about her every time this debate gets nasty. She would have hated this argument.

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    Casey 922w ago

    This is sweet but it's also doing something the whole thread keeps doing: using anecdotes instead of actually answering the question. Your grandmother was good AND religious. That says nothing about whether religion caused the goodness or was just running in parallel.

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  Noah L.1mo ago

  If the only thing stopping you from harming people is a god watching, that's not morality, that's surveillance.

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  Reese1mo ago

  The entire premise of needing religion to be good is honestly insulting to every secular person who has ever sacrificed anything for a stranger. My grandfather, lifelong atheist, ran into a burning building to save his neighbor's dog. No heaven waiting. No pastor watching. Just a man who couldn't live with himself if he didn't try.

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    Alex1mo ago

    ok but where did YOUR grandfather get the idea that saving things is worth risking your life? that moral instinct came from somewhere. culture, family, society — all of which were shaped by centuries of religious thought whether he acknowledged it or not. atheists are often living off inherited moral capital they didn't build themselves.

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      Quinn1mo ago

      The 'inherited moral capital' argument is one of the laziest moves in this debate. By that logic, religious people are living off evolved social instincts they didn't design either. Nobody invents their starting conditions from scratch. That's not a point for religion, that's just... how humans work.

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  Zara1w ago

  I was raised Muslim, became agnostic in my 20s, and the funniest thing is that my moral compass barely changed. What changed was the anxiety. I stopped fearing judgment and started acting from... I don't know, just caring about people. The ethics stayed, the fear left. Make of that what you will.

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    Elena1w ago

    I've heard this from several people who've left religious traditions. The fear-to-care shift. That's actually a really important data point that deserves more attention than it gets.

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  Casey K.2w ago

  I used to volunteer at a hospice alongside a very devout Catholic nurse. She was extraordinary. Then again so was the completely non-religious social worker next to her. At some point I realized I was watching people be shaped by suffering and care, not by belief systems. Maybe proximity to real human need is what makes people good, regardless of what they pray.

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  Marco3w ago

  The most good I ever did in my life was when I stopped trying to be good and just started paying attention to the actual people in front of me. The whole project of being A Good Person felt self-involved. Just... be present. Help when you can. Admit when you mess up. That's it. Religion didn't teach me that. Failure did.

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    Marco3w ago

    This is beautiful but also kind of a privilege. 'Just pay attention' works when you're not operating in contexts where you need structured ethical reasoning to avoid real harm — medicine, law, policy, war. Individual gut-level goodness doesn't scale.

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  Hana5d ago

  The question itself is slightly rigged. 'Genuinely good' is doing an enormous amount of unexamined work in that sentence. Genuine by whose standard? If you're using a secular standard to judge, of course secular people pass. If you're using a religious one, of course they fail. You've got to pick your measuring tape before you start measuring.

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  Drew1mo ago

  Can we talk about how this question almost never gets asked in reverse? Nobody says 'can you be genuinely good WITH religion?' as if that's the suspicious case. The framing itself reveals a bias.

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  Theo1w ago

  I find the 'goodness requires external grounding' argument basically backwards. The fact that I do good without any promise of reward or threat of punishment seems MORE moral to me, not less. Kant would agree. Doing the right thing because it's right, not because you're audited — that's the higher bar.

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    Morgan1w ago

    Sure but Kant also believed in God and thought practical reason led you back there. He's a complicated witness for the fully secular side.

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    Sam S.1w ago

    Can we stop using dead philosophers as mascots? Both sides do this. 'Kant would agree.' 'Aristotle actually said.' The argument should stand on its own legs.

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  Taylor 923w ago

  The real answer is that almost nobody is fully good or fully bad. We're all inconsistent, self-serving some days and genuinely selfless others, brave sometimes and cowardly the next. Religion doesn't change that. Neither does atheism. What changes it — slowly, imperfectly — is experience, relationship, consequence, and some luck. Anyone claiming their worldview produces reliably good people is selling something.

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  Noah4w ago

  Goodness isn't a destination you arrive at, religious or otherwise. It's a practice. Daily, unglamorous, often unrewarded. I've met good people in mosques and good people in prison and terrible people in seminaries. The variable isn't religion.

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  Marco1w ago

  What actually offends me about the 'you need religion to be good' position is the implication that the billions of humans who lived before or outside any given religion were just morally adrift. Ancient Chinese ethics, Stoic philosophy, pre-contact indigenous moral traditions — these weren't waiting to be fixed by monotheism.

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    Zara 921w ago

    Interestingly most religious traditions don't actually claim that. Natural law theory holds that moral knowledge is accessible to all humans through reason. The claim is more often about what GROUNDS the morality than who can access it.

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      Priya1w ago

      That's a sophisticated position and I respect it but it's not what gets said in the pews or the comment sections. The theoretical theology and the lived religion are two very different things.

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  Diego2w ago

  The honest answer from inside religion: we have plenty of bad people too. I've been in churches where gossip, power games, and genuine cruelty hid behind nice language and offering plates. The institution doesn't automatically produce the outcome.

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    Iris K.2w ago

    yes!! this!! the performance of goodness and actual goodness are completely different things and religion, like any social system, can incentivize the performance really well

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  Sam3w ago

  from a purely evolutionary perspective, moral behavior predates religion by millions of years. primates show fairness, empathy, reciprocity, even something that looks like grief. your dog isn't religious and it would die for you. the wiring for goodness came first. religion came along and framed it, organized it, sometimes hijacked it.

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    Morgan3w ago

    The jump from 'primates show rudimentary prosocial behavior' to 'therefore human morality needs no transcendent grounding' is enormous. Frans de Waal himself, the primatologist everyone cites for this, was pretty careful not to make that leap. Our capacity for moral reasoning is qualitatively different from primate fairness instincts.

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      Nina S.3w ago

      Different in degree, maybe. Different in kind? I'm not convinced. The more we learn about animal cognition the smaller that gap gets.

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  Feli5d ago

  if you're 80 years old and looking back on your life, you're not going to be thinking about the philosophy debate. you're going to be thinking about whether you were there for the people who needed you. nobody lies on their deathbed wishing they'd won more internet arguments about divine command theory

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    Iris M.5d ago

    That's probably true but it also kind of proves the philosophical point matters — because 'being there for the people who needed you' is itself a value claim. Why does that matter? Why should you have been there? The fact that it feels obvious doesn't mean it has no foundation to examine. The feeling of obviousness is exactly what we're trying to explain.

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  Quinn2w ago

  What bothers me about the secular side of this debate is the assumption that 'good' is self-evident. Good according to what standard? Evolutionary fitness? Social consensus? Personal intuition? As soon as you press on the foundation, secular ethics tends to either borrow quietly from religious tradition or collapse into relativism. Neither is satisfying.

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    Ravi2w ago

    Bro just be nice to people. This isn't a dissertation.

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      Sam R.2w ago

      That's a sentiment, not an answer. 'Just be nice' sounds lovely but where does 'nice' come from, why does it obligate anyone, and what do you do when being nice to one person means being unkind to another? Dismissing the philosophical question doesn't make it go away.

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    Marco2w ago

    This is the strongest argument on the religious side and I say that as an atheist. The 'why be moral at all?' question doesn't have an easy naturalistic answer. I personally think moral realism can be defended without theism but I wouldn't call it settled.

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  Sam L.2w ago

  Here's what I actually believe: children who've never heard of religion already show fairness instincts, empathy, distress at others' pain. The moral raw material is prior to religious instruction. What religion does, at best, is cultivate and channel it. What it does at worst is suppress or redirect it. You don't create goodness from nothing — you either help it grow or you don't.

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  Riley2d ago

  Here's what I genuinely don't understand about the secular position: if morality is just evolved social instinct plus cultural consensus, then it has no authority. 'Don't torture children' becomes 'most humans currently feel strongly about this.' That might describe our preferences but it can't tell us we're OBLIGATED. Obligation requires something beyond preference. I'm not saying religion is the only answer but I've never heard a fully satisfying secular account of why obligation exists.

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    Quinn2d ago

    Contractualism. Scanlon. 'An act is wrong if it violates principles that no one could reasonably reject.' The obligation comes from the logic of mutual justifiability, not from divine command and not merely from preference aggregation. It's been on the shelf since 1998, it's not like philosophy has been sitting on its hands.

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      Casey2d ago

      nobody in the history of the world has ever stopped themselves from doing something cruel because they suddenly remembered contractualism. the actual psychological mechanisms of human decency are empathy, attachment, shame, love. whether there's a tidy philosophical theory underneath them is a completely separate question from whether they work

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      Jamie2d ago

      Scanlon is great but 'no one could reasonably reject' just pushes the question back one level — who determines what counts as reasonable? Reasonable according to what baseline human? You end up either sneaking in intuitions that need their own grounding, or you get circularity. I love Scanlon. It's still not fully satisfying as a foundation.

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  Casey1mo ago

  I'm a philosophy professor and I want to gently push back on the framing of this whole question. 'Good person' is doing an enormous amount of work here that nobody's defining. Good by what standard? Consequentialist outcomes? Virtue ethics? Deontological duty? Religion at least offers a coherent (if debatable) answer to that meta-question. Secular ethics has been arguing about foundations for 2,500 years without consensus.

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    Sam1mo ago

    2,500 years of argument sounds like a feature, not a bug. Religion 'solved' the question by declaring it solved. That's not wisdom, that's just stopping the inquiry.

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  Jordan2w ago

  honest question: has anyone here actually changed their view because of a comment on this thread? asking for a friend (the friend is my faith in online discourse)

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  Liam L.1w ago

  Here's my uncomfortable observation: this entire debate is mostly being had by people who are already predisposed to be 'good people' by most standards. The really interesting test cases — people who've done serious harm and then changed — seem to end up in very different places. Some through religion, some through secular therapy, some through community accountability. The path seems highly individual. I don't think we can generalize.

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    Ravi1w ago

    worked in criminal justice reform for six years. can confirm. every redemption story is its own genre. some deeply religious, some militantly secular, some just someone who had a kid and finally got scared straight. you cannot predict it.

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  Nina1w ago

  The problem isn't individual goodness anyway. It's collective moral coordination at scale. What is the secular world's answer to abolishing slavery, to civil rights, to feeding the poor systematically? Historically those movements were often powered by religious conviction. The 'goodness' we're measuring might be less individual virtue and more social transformation.

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    Nina1w ago

    Also worth noting some of those liberation movements were explicitly fighting AGAINST religious institutions that were defending the status quo. This runs both ways.

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    Nina1w ago

    Secular humanism, labor movements, human rights law, the international Red Cross — all of those did major lifting on exactly those problems. The religious movements also existed. Cherry-picking which inputs caused which outputs is really hard when the causality is tangled.

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  Nina2w ago

  There's a version of religion that is entirely about community accountability — you are watched by people who love you and will call you out. That mechanism produces real behavioral change. You could argue the belief system is almost secondary to the social infrastructure. Secular communities that replicate that structure (therapy cultures, AA, certain activist circles) seem to produce similar effects. The variable might not be 'God' but 'witnesses.'

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    Iris2w ago

    This is actually fascinating and I don't see it mentioned enough. Jonathan Haidt's research on moral psychology points toward the importance of binding institutions — communities that hold you to norms over time. Religion is historically the best delivery system for that. The question is whether secular equivalents can fully substitute.

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  Liam3w ago

  I'll say what nobody wants to say: a lot of religious 'goodness' is performative and socially enforced. People tithe because their community sees if they don't. People volunteer because the church keeps track. Strip away the social pressure and watch how quickly some of that evaporates. That's not a dig at religion specifically — secular social pressure does the same thing. The question is what's underneath.

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    Marco3w ago

    You're describing the full range of human motivation and then assigning the bad version only to religion. Secular people donate publicly to get social status too. They post their charity work on Instagram. Social reinforcement isn't unique to religious contexts.

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      Elena3w ago

      YES THANK YOU. I'm so tired of religious behavior being interrogated for 'pure' motives while secular virtue is taken at face value. Both are messy. Both are human.

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  Reese1w ago

  Imagine judging people's moral worth based on their metaphysical beliefs rather than their actual behavior. Imagine doing that and thinking you're the moral one.

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  Liam M.6d ago

  I just think the whole framing of 'being a good person' might be the problem. It's so focused on the individual's status. Good compared to what? Good to whom? Good by whose criteria? I'm more interested in whether someone leaves situations better than they found them than whether they meet some internal virtue checklist.

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  Maya S.5d ago

  Hard agree with the comment about 'goodness as individual status.' There's something almost narcissistic about the question 'am I a good person.' The people I admire most aren't asking that. They're too busy actually doing things to run the internal audit.

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    Ravi R.4d ago

    You're describing virtue ethics without calling it that. The whole Aristotelian tradition says a good person isn't someone who constantly evaluates themselves — it's someone for whom good actions have become second nature, habitual. The self-scrutiny is for early in the process, not the end state.

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  Liam4w ago

  I think the more interesting question isn't whether you CAN be good without religion, but whether it's HARDER. Community, ritual, accountability structures, regular reminders of your values — religion provides all of that. Secular life requires you to build that scaffolding yourself. Most people don't.

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    Taylor4w ago

    This is actually the most honest pro-religion argument I've seen in this thread and I say that as someone who left the church 10 years ago. The infrastructure IS real. I just think we can build secular versions of it. We just... haven't done it very well yet.

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      Reese T.4w ago

      Secular versions of moral community? Like what, book clubs and yoga? I'm not being sarcastic, I'm genuinely asking. Nothing secular has the scale, depth of tradition, or motivational power of a functioning religious community. Sunday Assembly tried and it's mostly struggling congregations in university towns.

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        Alex _x4w ago

        Mutual aid networks. Labor unions at their best. Volunteer fire departments. Certain political movements. AA which is quasi-secular and has genuinely saved millions of lives. The secular scaffolding exists, it just doesn't wear the same clothes.

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  Morgan1w ago

  My issue isn't with religious people. My issue is with the framing that says goodness without religion is somehow lesser, derivative, or fragile. I've watched people treat strangers with extraordinary decency, ask for nothing, explain nothing, cite no scripture. That's not incomplete goodness. That's complete goodness.

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  Jordan2w ago

  I grew up evangelical, left at 22, spent years being furious, and have slowly landed somewhere quieter. I don't think I need religion to be good. I also don't think I'd be who I am without having had it. Both things are true and I've had to make peace with that tension.

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  Omar K.3w ago

  My issue is with the word 'genuinely.' Who gets to certify genuine goodness? A priest? A philosopher? A panel of your neighbors? The moment you need external validation to confirm your goodness, you've already lost something.

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    Quinn 923w ago

    Hard disagree. External accountability is exactly what keeps most people honest. Pure internal validation with no outside check is how narcissists operate. 'I know in my heart I'm a good person' is the most dangerous sentence in human history.

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  Ravi1mo ago

  ngl i grew up super religious and i was kind of a terrible person lmao. judgmental, exclusive, convinced anyone outside my church was spiritually inferior. left my faith at 24 and ironically became way more compassionate. sometimes the framework itself is the problem

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    Yuki B.1mo ago

    That's a personal testimony, not evidence. I could give you a hundred testimonies going the exact other direction — people who were adrift, nihilistic, genuinely harmful, and found faith and became decent human beings. Anecdotes cancel each other out.

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      Yuki R.1mo ago

      They cancel each other out — which is EXACTLY the point. Neither religion nor irreligion guarantees goodness or badness. So why are we still acting like religion is a prerequisite?

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  Priya M.3w ago

  Can we acknowledge that this debate is partly a proxy war for a much older question about whether humans are fundamentally good or fundamentally fallen? Religious anthropology often starts with brokenness that needs fixing. Secular humanism often starts with potential that needs cultivating. Those are genuinely different starting points and they lead to genuinely different moral architectures.

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  Sam2w ago

  Isn't the real question not whether religion is required but whether anything structured is? Like, can you develop ethical depth entirely through individual experience and reflection with no tradition, community, or text at all? I'm less certain about that. Even secular ethics tends to rely on inherited frameworks — the Enlightenment didn't emerge from nowhere.

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    Noah 212w ago

    Genuinely good point but worth noting that those inherited Enlightenment frameworks themselves were a deliberate break from religious authority. At some point humans kept revising the tradition. Maybe that revision capacity is the actual moral engine, not the tradition itself.

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  Elena3w ago

  The question itself is kind of insulting. 'Can you be good without religion?' Yes. Obviously. Next question.

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    Kofi2w ago

    I'd push back on the 'obviously' here. It's obvious to you because you've probably never seriously engaged with the strongest versions of the argument. Divine command theory, natural law, moral realism grounded in theism — these aren't just superstitions. Philosophers have wrestled with them for centuries and the atheist responses aren't slam dunks either.

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      Elena2w ago

      Nobody who's actually read Kant thinks you need God to get to moral obligation. The categorical imperative doesn't invoke any deity whatsoever. Kant was personally religious but kept it entirely separate from his ethical system for a reason.

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  Feli3w ago

  The question assumes a binary that doesn't exist. There's a massive spectrum between 'devoutly religious by traditional standards' and 'committed atheist.' Spiritual but not religious. Cultural belonging without metaphysical belief. Personal ethical codes drawn from multiple traditions. Most people actually live somewhere in this middle space and do fine.

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  Sam T.3d ago

  okay but has anyone considered that maybe most people, religious or not, are just kind of... mediocre morally? like we're all out here doing an okay job, occasionally heroic, occasionally terrible, mostly middling. why do we need to crown a winner. 'atheists can be good' and 'religious people can be good' are both true and both boring

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  Marco K.1mo ago

  Goodness measured by reward and punishment isn't goodness. It's just well-trained self-interest with a halo on.

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  Sam1mo ago

  Plenty of deeply religious people have done monstrous things and plenty of atheists give blood, time, and money quietly. The data is in.

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  Marco T.1mo ago

  Raised with no religion, somehow turned out kind. Almost like empathy isn't a denominational product.

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  Jordan3w ago

  what even IS a 'genuinely good person' tho. like is it about intentions or outcomes. because ive known people with the best intentions who caused absolute devastation and people who acted selfishly who accidentally made everything better. virtue feels fake when you look at it too hard

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    Alex3w ago

    That's moral luck and it's one of the most underrated problems in ethics. Thomas Nagel wrote a classic paper on it. Your outcomes depend heavily on circumstances you didn't choose. Which is one reason some people lean toward virtue ethics — judging character rather than results. Neither solution is clean.

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  Drew1mo ago

  Morality without a transcendent source is just the opinion of whoever has the most power. Hitler had secular moral reasoning too. So did Stalin. Checkmate.

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    Jordan L.1mo ago

    The Hitler/Stalin argument. Every. Single. Time. Both of those regimes also persecuted religious minorities, suppressed churches, and in Hitler's case explicitly invoked Christian-adjacent rhetoric when convenient. If you're going to play that game, you have to play it all the way.

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    Yuki 211mo ago

    Also the logical leap in comment 9 is wild — 'secular reasoning was misused by monsters, therefore all secular reasoning is invalid.' By identical logic: religious reasoning was used to justify the Inquisition, so all religious reasoning is invalid. You can't have it both ways.

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