Is alcohol so normalized that we ignore it's basically a hard drug?

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  Maya 215d ago

  my uncle got a DUI and everyone in the family treated it like a parking ticket. my cousin got caught with weed once and it was a FAMILY CRISIS. same house. same people. i will never get over that.

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  Zara1d ago

  grew up in a house where beer was just always there. fridge always had it. dad had one when he got home, one with dinner, one watching tv. never thought of him as a drinker. he had three strokes before 60. i think about that a lot.

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  Marco3d ago

  I work in an ER. Alcohol-related admissions on a Friday night versus any other drug — it's not close. Not even in the same universe. And yet the conversation we have as a society is about fentanyl. Which is real and serious. But the scale of alcohol harm is just sitting there, enormous and invisible.

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    Casey B.3d ago

    The ER comment above is the one that should end this debate. We literally built a medical specialty around alcohol withdrawal because stopping it can KILL you. Name another legal over-the-counter product that does that.

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  Reese M.3d ago

  I've been a bartender for eleven years. The number of people who come in alone, drink until just-before-obviously-drunk, tip well, and leave — people with jobs and families and lives — and nobody ever names what's happening. I see it every shift. Every single shift.

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  Zara5d ago

  If alcohol were discovered tomorrow it would be Schedule I in a week. The only reason it's legal is that it's old and we're hooked culturally.

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  Hana1d ago

  Honestly this whole thread is making me reconsider some things and I did not log on today expecting that. I don't think I'm dependent but I did just realize I genuinely can't remember the last social event I attended sober. That's... a thing I'm going to sit with.

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  Riley2d ago

  I'm a recovering alcoholic. The word 'recovering' is doing a lot of work in that sentence — I'll be managing this for the rest of my life. What made it worse for so long was that I was successful, presentable, and could always find a social occasion that made my drinking make sense. The camouflage that normal provides is extraordinary.

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  Elena3d ago

  The thing that gets me is the GRIEF angle. When someone dies of an overdose there's shame attached to the mourning. When someone dies of alcohol-related causes we have a wake with drinks. We literally pour the substance that killed them as a tribute. And somehow that's the normal one.

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    Jamie3d ago

    That hit me in the chest. My brother's funeral. Open bar. Because that's what he would have wanted. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry so I did both.

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      Ravi3d ago

      I'm sorry for your loss. Genuinely. And yes, the ritual around it is something we should examine without shame but with clear eyes.

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  Maya B.2d ago

  Something that genuinely changed my view: reading about how alcohol marketing explicitly targets people who are already drinking too much. The heavy drinkers — the top 10% by consumption — account for like 50% of all alcohol sold. The industry isn't selling to casual users. It's depending on the addicted.

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  Alex1d ago

  I work in addiction medicine. The withdrawal from alcohol is one of the only drug withdrawals that can literally kill you — alongside benzodiazepines. Opioid withdrawal is brutal and agonizing but almost never fatal. Alcohol withdrawal can cause fatal seizures. People don't know this. Doctors sometimes don't emphasize it enough. That alone should reframe how we talk about this.

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    Quinn R.1d ago

    The fatal withdrawal thing is actually real and genuinely underappreciated. I've had patients come into the ER in full delirium tremens and family members are shocked because they didn't think dad had a 'real' problem, just liked his evening scotch. The physical dependency snuck up on everyone including him.

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  Avery4d ago

  I'm a nurse. I have watched more people die from alcohol-related organ failure than from every other substance combined in my 14 years on a medical ward. We just don't track it the same way because it would terrify the industry.

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  Reese3d ago

  Been sober 6 years. What nobody tells you is the social exclusion is almost as hard as the physical withdrawal was. Birthday dinners, weddings, work events — you become the person people feel slightly judged by just by existing in the room. I didn't stop being fun. People just decided I was a statement about their choices.

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  Quinn 922d ago

  I'm not anti-alcohol and I enjoy a drink. But I genuinely cannot name another substance where the burden is on the person NOT using it to explain their choice. If you don't want a glass of wine at dinner, you are expected to have a reason. A REASON. For not consuming a drug. Let that sink in.

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  Jamie T.3d ago

  The fact that 'I don't drink' is treated as a personality quirk requiring explanation while 'I drink most nights' requires none tells you everything you need to know about where the burden of proof sits in this culture.

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  Hana2d ago

  Birthday cake doesn't interact with GABA receptors, cause physical dependence, or increase the risk of seven types of cancer. So no, not quite the same thing.

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  Marco B.5d ago

  The cognitive dissonance is stunning. We have a "War on Drugs" while simultaneously running Super Bowl ads glamorizing the exact same neurological pathway. Pick a lane.

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  Morgan R.2d ago

  The cultural engineering point is spot on but let's name who does the engineering: a multi-billion dollar industry that has literally hired lobbyists to water down health warnings on labels for fifty years. This isn't organic culture. It was manufactured.

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  Morgan B.4d ago

  spent 6 years not drinking because of medication and honestly i thought id miss it. i didn't. not even a little. i think i was just drinking because everyone else was and the habit filled time. that realization hit different.

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  Ravi2d ago

  There's a class dimension nobody's touching. Craft beer and wine culture is aspirational, artisanal, respectable. A homeless man drinking from a paper bag is a social problem. Same drug. Very different responses. Our discomfort isn't about alcohol, it's about which alcohol, consumed by whom, where.

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  Avery 923d ago

  People always bring up tobacco as a comparison but here's the kicker — we actually changed the social norm around smoking. Dramatically. In one generation. So the argument that "culture can't change" is empirically false. We just haven't decided to apply the same will to alcohol.

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    Jamie 213d ago

    The tobacco comparison is instructive but the alcohol lobby is significantly better funded and more politically entrenched than tobacco ever was. This isn't inertia, it's infrastructure.

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  Quinn L.3d ago

  "Humans have always done it" is not an argument for anything. Humans have always had tooth decay too. Didn't stop us from recommending dentists.

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  Avery4d ago

  The real question nobody wants to ask: why do we NEED to alter our consciousness to enjoy each other's company? That says more about our baseline quality of life than about alcohol specifically.

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    Taylor M.4d ago

    Because it's pleasant and humans have been fermenting things for ten thousand years? Not everything is a symptom of civilizational collapse lol

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      Yuki4d ago

      Ten thousand years of doing something doesn't make it healthy. We've been doing tribalism and violence that long too. Age isn't an argument.

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  Yuki2d ago

  The question in the title asks if we IGNORE it. I'd argue we don't ignore it — we actively CELEBRATE it. There's a difference. Ignoring would mean indifference. What we do is ritualize it, glamorize it, make it central to romance, friendship, success, and relaxation. That's not a blind spot. That's a masterclass in cultural engineering.

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  Elena1d ago

  Counterpoint nobody wants to hear: a lot of people use alcohol as self-medication for anxiety, depression, and social phobia because mental healthcare is either inaccessible, unaffordable, or still stigmatized. Fix that infrastructure and alcohol consumption probably drops. The drinking is a symptom. We keep arguing about the symptom.

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  Jamie3d ago

  Society's blind spot? It's not a blind spot if everyone can see it and chooses to look away. That's a choice. A collective, profitable, deeply defended choice. Blind spot implies innocence we don't deserve.

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  Leo T.3d ago

  I raised this at a work wellness meeting once — the company was doing a 'health initiative' that included free beer Fridays. The silence in the room. The HR person literally said 'that's a bit different though.' I still don't know different from what exactly.

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  Elena B.2d ago

  My doctor told me two drinks a day was fine for years. Recent WHO guidance says no amount of alcohol is definitively safe. The goalposts kept moving and I kept drinking. I'm not blaming him entirely, but the medical community has been weirdly reluctant to be honest about this too.

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  Sam2d ago

  The camouflage point is so real. I watched a family member spiral for years while everyone said 'oh she just enjoys a glass of wine' right up until the hospitalization. Social normalization doesn't just enable the addiction, it actively suppresses the intervention.

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    Feli2d ago

    wishing you well genuinely, that took guts to write

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  Alex1d ago

  Nobody serious is calling for prohibition. The ask — and this isn't hard — is honest labeling, accurate public health messaging, removing alcohol ads from sports broadcasts children watch, and stopping the social coercion that treats sobriety as weird. None of that is prohibition. Stop using that as a deflection every time someone wants a sensible conversation.

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  Liam4d ago

  I quit drinking three years ago and the number of social events I've been un-invited to since is genuinely funny at this point. Apparently you are only fun if you participate in the ritual. Sobriety is a social crime.

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    Liam S.4d ago

    Nobody's stopping anyone from being sober though??? You're making choices and calling it oppression. Dramatic.

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      Reese4d ago

      Not being invited to events because you don't drink isn't oppression but it IS a data point about how deeply the substance is embedded in social bonding rituals. That's the whole point of the thread. Try reading it.

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  Feli2d ago

  This is the most important comment in this whole thread. The gatekeeping of which drinking is elegant versus which drinking is shameful is doing so much work to protect the norm. A sommelier is sophisticated. A guy at a bus stop with a can is a cautionary tale. The molecule is identical.

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  Jordan M.4d ago

  The liver doesn't care what the label looks like. Cirrhosis is cirrhosis whether you got there via a $4 can or a $200 bottle. The class-washing of alcohol is one of the stranger phenomena in public health.

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    Drew4d ago

    Class-washing. That's actually the perfect word for it. "Wine culture" vs "problem drinking" is entirely an income bracket distinction.

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  Omar3d ago

  Here's what nobody wants to say out loud: governments make enormous tax revenue from alcohol. In the UK alone it's billions annually. The state is financially incentivized to keep you drinking. Call that a conspiracy theory if you want, but it's just the tax receipts.

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  Marco1d ago

  The class dimension of this debate is something nobody wants to touch. Craft beer culture, natural wine, whisky appreciation — these are coded as sophisticated. Box wine and 40s are coded as a problem. Same ethanol. The judgment isn't about the drug. It's about who's consuming it and in what aesthetic wrapper. That should make everyone uncomfortable.

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  Marco3d ago

  Free beer Fridays at a wellness initiative is genuinely insane when you type it out like that. Like offering cigarettes at a yoga class.

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  Leo4d ago

  This thread is making me feel seen in a way therapy hasn't managed. My ex drank a bottle of wine every night and our couples counselor never once flagged it. A BOTTLE. Every. Night.

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    Reese3d ago

    ok but a bottle of wine a night isn't automatically addiction, some people just enjoy it, you don't know their whole situation

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      Marco3d ago

      A bottle of wine is roughly 9-10 standard drinks. The clinical definition of heavy drinking is more than 14 per week for men, 7 for women. Do the math. I'm not diagnosing anyone but let's not pretend that's a neutral consumption level.

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  Sam2d ago

  The two-drinks-a-day thing was based on studies that were heavily confounded by sick quitters — people who stopped drinking because they were already ill showing up in the abstainer group and making moderate drinkers look healthier by comparison. When you control for that, the 'benefits' largely disappear. It was bad science repeated uncritically for decades.

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  Zara1d ago

  I quit three years ago and the number of social situations that became suddenly awkward is staggering. Work events, weddings, first dates. People kept trying to solve what they perceived as my problem. 'Just have one.' 'You're not driving, right?' 'Oh come on it's a celebration.' The pressure is relentless and most of the people applying it have absolutely no idea they're doing it.

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  Elena L.2d ago

  I think people conflate 'alcohol is dangerous and underregulated' with 'alcohol should be prohibited' and that conflation is doing a lot of political heavy lifting for the industry. You can hold the first position without the second. The tobacco precedent shows a middle path: restrict advertising, require honest health warnings, fund treatment, stop sponsoring sports. Nobody banned cigarettes.

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  Zara K.3d ago

  Genuine question for the "adults get to make bad choices" crowd: do you apply the same logic to other addictive substances? Or does the logic only activate when the substance is socially comfortable?

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    Jordan 923d ago

    Yes actually. I'm a libertarian and I think all drugs should be legal, regulated, and taxed. Full stop. Consistency is the only honest position here.

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      Noah3d ago

      I respect that position more than the halfway people who say "adults choose" for alcohol but "crack users are criminals." At least you're coherent.

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  Hana 212d ago

  Honest question to anyone who disagrees with the premise here: what would it take to change your mind? Like what evidence would make you think 'yeah, we're getting this wrong'? Because if the answer is 'nothing,' that's worth examining.

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  Casey2d ago

  Nobody is saying the context and quantity are identical. The point is that society applies moral judgment based on aesthetics and class rather than actual harm metrics. A functional alcoholic in a nice suit drinking at business lunches is producing far more total alcohol harm than someone drinking the same amount differently. But one gets an intervention and one gets offered the wine list.

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  Taylor S.1d ago

  What gets me is the advertising. Alcohol ads associate the product with beaches, laughter, hot people, success. Every single one. If pharmaceutical companies ran ads showing healthy beautiful people thriving because of their antidepressants there would be outrage. But somehow this is just Tuesday.

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  Liam3d ago

  My issue with the 'it's a hard drug' framing is that it tends to lead to prohibition talk, which actually makes things worse for the people most harmed. Criminalization is not care. We need treatment infrastructure, honest labeling, honest health education — not another drug war.

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  Reese4d ago

  I work in marketing and I will tell you straight: if alcohol were a new product pitched today, no responsible agency would touch the campaign. The liability alone. We only tolerate the advertising because it's grandfathered into culture.

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  Casey4d ago

  This framing assumes the public can't handle nuance. Alcohol IS more dangerous than some illegal substances and less dangerous than others. Saying it's "basically a hard drug" is just swapping one oversimplification for another.

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  Liam M.3d ago

  the tobacco parallel keeps coming up and honestly it should. my grandmother smoked at her desk at work. that was normal. now it's unthinkable. generational norms are not fixed laws of physics, they are choices that got made and can get unmade

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  Marco L.3d ago

  I don't think alcohol is a hard drug but I also don't think that framing matters as much as just being honest about what it does to the brain over time. Call it whatever you want. Acknowledge the damage. Start there.

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  Avery L.5d ago

  Imagine telling a friend you're going sober and they look concerned, like YOU'RE the one with the problem. That reaction says everything about how deep it goes.

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  Marco3d ago

  Nobody is seriously proposing prohibition lol. Acknowledging something is harmful is not the same as wanting to ban it. We can say cigarettes are terrible AND sell them to adults. These positions coexist fine.

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  Avery1d ago

  This is a good point but it can also become an excuse that delays accountability. Yes, address the underlying mental health crisis. AND acknowledge the drug is harmful. Both things can be true. The 'root cause' framing sometimes gets used to avoid saying anything directly critical of alcohol itself.

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  Morgan2d ago

  The Nordic example is more complicated than that — Finland specifically went from one of the most restrictive regimes in the world to gradual liberalization and outcomes are mixed depending which decade you look at. It's not a clean rebuttal of regulation. The picture is messy in both directions.

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  Omar4d ago

  Sure, it's a drug. So is caffeine. The difference is dose and choice, and adults get to make bad choices. Prohibition already failed once, remember?

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  Omar2d ago

  It's been studied pretty extensively — NIAAA has data on it, and there was a famous Boston Globe piece on it. The 10/50 split varies slightly by study but the general finding is consistent across multiple countries. It's not a fringe claim.

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  Yuki1d ago

  my friend group does 'wine nights' and if i bring sparkling water everyone acts like im judging them. i'm not!! i just don't want wine!! why does my sobriety feel like a personal attack to people who are drinking. that's genuinely a weird dynamic if you think about it

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  Hana2d ago

  Fine, I'll bite. What would change my mind is evidence that restricting normalization actually reduces harm rather than just shifting it underground or to other substances. Correlation between cultural permissiveness and consumption rates doesn't establish causation. Some Nordic countries had strict alcohol cultures and devastating rates anyway.

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  Yuki 213d ago

  Respectfully this whole framing is a bit precious. Humans have fermented things and gotten drunk since before recorded history. This isn't capitalism tricking us. This is us being human.

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  Maya2d ago

  Messy in both directions is an understatement. Alcohol policy research is one of the most contested areas in public health. Anyone citing single-country examples as definitive is selling you something.

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  Taylor3d ago

  Normalization isn't the same as endorsement. We normalized seatbelts too. Normalizing harm reduction conversations around alcohol might actually save more lives than reclassifying it as a hard drug symbolically.

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    Maya3d ago

    Nope. Hard disagree. Normalization here is the problem, not the solution. You don't normalize your way out of a normalized problem.

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    Iris T.3d ago

    The seatbelt comparison doesn't work at all because seatbelts reduce harm from an unavoidable risk. Drinking IS the avoidable risk. It's like normalizing car crashes and calling it harm reduction.

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  Jamie4d ago

  Hard drug? Come on. Hard drugs destroy communities overnight. Alcohol is a slow burn at worst. Grouping them together is the kind of hysterical thinking that makes serious drug policy impossible.

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    Priya4d ago

    Actually alcohol withdrawal can literally kill you. Heroin withdrawal can't. So if we're ranking by physiological danger during cessation, alcohol wins. Look it up before calling it a slow burn.

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  Hana3d ago

  hard drug is a made up category tbh. everything is a spectrum of risk. calling vodka the same thing as heroin doesnt help anyone understand anything

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  Diego1d ago

  Hard drug? Come on. Heroin destroys you in months. I've had a beer every Friday night for 30 years and I'm fine. The slippery-slope catastrophizing here is not helping anyone.

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    Reese1d ago

    The 'I've done it for 30 years and I'm fine' argument is one of the weakest possible forms of evidence. Smokers who lived to 90 existed. That didn't make smoking safe. Individual anecdote is not population-level risk data.

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  Reese4d ago

  okay but "hard drug" has a specific cultural meaning and diluting it doesn't help anyone. the goal should be honest harm reduction, not reclassification wars that go nowhere politically

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  Sam2d ago

  The yoga/cigarette comparison is a bit much. A beer after work is not a public health crisis. Some of you would ban birthday cake if you could find the right framing.

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  Elena4d ago

  Studies consistently show moderate drinking has cardiovascular benefits so this whole "it's just poison" narrative is reductive. Context. Dose. Duration. These things matter in pharmacology.

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    Theo S.4d ago

    Those cardiovascular studies have been largely debunked or shown to have serious confounding variables — the comparison group often included former drinkers who quit due to illness. The "French Paradox" was basically a statistics artifact. The current WHO position is no safe level exists.

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      Diego4d ago

      "No safe level" is the kind of absolutism that makes people stop trusting public health messaging. Everything in sufficient quantity is toxic. Water. Salt. Sunlight. This rhetoric backfires.

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  Omar2d ago

  ok but context actually does matter for risk. drinking a glass of red at dinner is demonstrably different health-wise from drinking two liters of cheap cider alone at 10am. pretending theyre the same to make a political point isnt accurate

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  Zara3d ago

  okay but I had two glasses of wine at dinner and I feel fine and I'm a functioning adult so maybe not everything needs a think-piece?

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    Ravi3d ago

    Two glasses of wine at dinner is fine. But notice how defensive that comment sounds. Nobody writes 'I had two cups of coffee and I feel fine' in response to a caffeine debate. The defensiveness IS the signal.

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  Morgan M.1d ago

  ok so should we ban it then? because every time someone raises this argument the logical endpoint seems to be prohibition and we already know how that goes. what's the actual ask here

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  Diego2d ago

  source on that stat? not saying you're wrong, actually sounds plausible, just want to read more

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  Jordan4d ago

  Lost my dad to it slowly, socially, with everyone toasting right along. Nobody calls it addiction when it has a cork and a nice label.

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